I've been with my girlfriend for three years. Throughout our relationship, she has never initiated sexual intimacy. It's always been me. Recently, I asked her why sometimes, after she has an orgasm, she simply rolls over without showing interest in my satisfaction. She told me that she never asked for sex in the first place and that sometimes she just goes along with it because it's easier. She has explained that she doesn't have the same sex drive as me, which I completely understand and accept. What troubles me is that she has only turned me down a couple of times in three years. Since her admission, I have no idea whether she's genuinely interested when we have sex or whether she's simply agreeing because it's easier. I'd genuinely rather she turned me down more often, so that when we are intimate, I can feel confident she actually wants to be there. I don't want sex out of obligation. I want to feel wanted and desired by my partner, and I want intimacy to be something we both willingly participate in. Her comment that she never asked for sex also makes me feel as though my needs and satisfaction don't matter because I was the one who initiated. I don't expect our sex drives to be identical, and I don't believe she owes me sex. But I do believe both partners should care about each other's needs, even when those needs differ. After three years, I'm questioning whether we're sexually compatible and whether my expectations are unreasonable.