My dates with him feel stuck in the same routine

He said he is risk-averse so he’s probably trying his best to not rock the boat and lose you. Perhaps he is maintaining the status quo so that he doesn’t risk what you all have. It’s been going for 7 months so he might be thinking this flow works? Perhaps finding a way to let him know you understand he is risk-averse and maybe share how you are risk-tolerant and want to spice things up, talk about where this is going, try something new, or hear more about what he’s feeling/thinking. Also — don’t be afraid to set the tone to and SHOW him what that looks like by taking the lead and broaching conversations, sharing what you like and what you’re wanting out of this, letting him know how you’re feeling and see how he follows. Best of luck!

The best way to know how someone feels is asking them. If you ask him what he feels and what his thoughts are on this relationship, you might get more direct answers. If he doesn't want to talk about it, or gives vague answers that you can't understand, it would be best to take a step back. Give him time and space to realize that he wants a relationship with you, or that he doesn't know what he wants. In the end, make sure you prioritize you. Trust your gut.

It’s definitely been enough time where you deserve a conversation. Bring it up directly and ask what his feelings are about the situation.

Maybe a weekend trip will allow him the time and security to open himself up to more intimate situations. If that doesn't seem to work, try having an honest conversation about what your wants and needs are. If the conclusion from that conversation is that he can't provide you that at the moment, you should really ask yourself if this relationship is right for you. Physical chemistry is still important for any healthy relationship.

You can have an honest conversation that doesn’t commit him to anything. It would clarify his interest in a future