I have this friend C whom I haven't known for about 2 years, whom I thought was going to be a great friend. We met at work and even after we parted ways but we remained in contact. We talk everyday frequently throughout the day. We bonded over childhood traumas, bad parents, bad siblings and just generic likes and dislikes. However one thing I started to note was that things always had to be her way. For example if I feel like chatting and I start a conversation she wouldn't reply straight away and then comes back much later saying that her phone was charging or she didn't hear. But then if she wants to chat and I'm not in the mood or busy and I say as much she would continue to message, pestering me to continue chatting. After parting ways we would make efforts to meet up, however I noticed that she would complain about something happening in her life, ask for advice on how to handle it and then dismiss me completely. She knows I'm a bit of a people pleaser and seems to lure me in by creating a dramatic story just to force me to stay in her life. Because I can be a people pleaser I can be very generous with my money, my time, my belongings etc. I know it is a character flaw as I can be manipulated. It's a work in progress. To give some context there were days where C had issues with the washing machine and couldn't do laundry. I suggested that there are various launderettes around to use, but came up with various excuses. “They're too expensive, I don't have the time, I don't have the patience, I don't have a car to carry my laundry“ trying to guilt me into telling her to come to my house to do laundry. Which she did end up coming over with 5 loads of laundry, didn't bring any detergents and after 2 loads said she needed to leave and to let her know when they are done and to drop them off at her house. Anyway, our friendship has evolved even to our spouses where we go out and we bring our significant others along and they also become friendly. They bonded over their respective hobbies and interests. Her spouse (I will call him B) keeps on pushing for my spouse (I will call him A) to be involved in his projects. A shares tips, suggestions and ideas, B says yes, thank you so much, amazing idea and then doesn't act on his suggestions. B keeps on pushing A to do work for him. But A has learned enough to sniff out lazy individuals who just want shit to be done for free without any effort and of course he will not allow to be played for a fool. During our meet ups we started noticing that they are leaching from us (me and my SO A) in various ways. For example they don't drive but expect to be picked up and driven back home and they never contribute towards fuel. Me and A don't eat a lot and generally we share a dish and still don't finish all, but then we would usually take leftovers home for the next day. B and C will intentionally order less food and then guilt us into giving them our leftovers and then don't pay extra for whatever portion of our food they have eaten. To note that B and C are big eaters so when we see them ordering small dishes we learned to suss them out. Sometimes we end up forcing ourselves to eat our plate completely so that we don't give them the satisfaction of stealing from us. We invite them to our house and to various outings and while they say thank you they don't contribute or offer to pay for anything. I appreciate the fact that we are inviting them. But I also believe it's common courtesy to show some form of gratitude and contribute. We also had a few weird interactions, for example I graduated, she asked me to invite her to the ceremony, paid for their tickets, then the day before tells me she cannot attend because she didn't take time off from work and doesn't have decent clothing to look smart for me. In another instance we invited them to go to the beach and then to a party. They had to bring a change of clothes so that they would wash up and we would go to the party after. Only to find out that they didn't bring anything with them because they didn’t want to go to the party, which meant we had to miss the party. Now before we picked them up for the beach I detailed everything that was going to happen that day, so that there weren't any excuses or confusions and they had enough time to confess and let us know. Another weird incident that occurred was that when they were over at our house, A was in the bathroom and I was in the laundry room putting a load in the dryer. Now I tend to fold clothes straight out of the dryer and put them in the laundry basket so that they would be ready to be put away and not creased. So by the time I was done and A was still in the bathroom maybe 15 minutes passed. And before I excused myself I served them coffee and tea and offered snacks. When I return from tending to the laundry I find them opening cupboards and rummaging through drawers. Which I didn't like at all, I don't feel it's normal to go through people's possessions.